Highlight #1: The Attribution Cascade
Learn the exact moment when pain transforms into character assassination—and why your brain decides your partner must be defective when they hurt you. Understand how the gap between intention, behavior, and impact creates the negative attributions that poison relationships.
Highlight #2: What's Really Below the Surface
Discover why anger and criticism are protective emotions masking deeper vulnerabilities. Explore how "relational ghosts" from your past get activated in present conflicts, making arguments feel life-or-death when they're actually about whether you matter, whether you're safe, and whether you're enough.
Highlight #3: From Prosecution to Revelation
Master the shift from "What's wrong with you?" to "What's happening inside me?"—and learn the vulnerable communication framework that moves you from building case files to creating actual connection. Practice the one question that interrupts reactivity: "What am I really afraid of right now?"
About the webinar
You're not actually fighting about the dishes, the schedule, or whose turn it is. In this 20-minute webinar, we explore what's really happening beneath your recurring conflicts. Learn why couples assign character defects to each other when they're in pain, how the gap between intention and impact creates negative attribution, and what deeper fears and needs are actually driving your arguments. Discover the one question that can transform your next conflict—and why the work isn't out there with your partner, but down in the depths of your own emotional iceberg.
Brian T. Jones, LMHC PMHC
Marriage/Relational Psychotherapist Creator of FERNS Method Owner of BME Therapy Associates, LLC
Curriculum
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The Emotional Iceberg: Understanding What's Really Driving Your Arguments.
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The Emotional Iceberg Webinar
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Post-Webinar Exercise: "Reading Your Own Iceberg"
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