The Topics Change, The Barriers Don't 

Every relationship runs into the same barriers — the fears, expectations, reactions, and sensitivities that quietly turn a conversation into a standoff. Each session takes one of them, live and with your questions, and works it in real time: naming the story underneath, finding the need it's protecting, and moving it toward connection. The topics rotate every two weeks. The method underneath them never changes. Come with a hard conversation of your own, or just come to learn — either way, you'll leave with something you can use that night.

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8 Chapters · 9 Lessons

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      Welcome to Connected Conversations Live

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      What's Next for Connected Conversations Live

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      Name the Problem: Why the First Move Decides Everything

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      The Relational Third: The Devil's in the Detail

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      Lost in Translation: How the Five Barriers Hijack the Way We State Our Problems

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      The Expectation Trap: How Your Protection Strategy Is Keeping You Stuck

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      The Victim-Victor-Villain Triad: Establishing the Core Choice in the Victim Position

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      The Emotional Iceberg: Understanding What's Really Driving Your Arguments.

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      The FERNS Method: 7 Steps to Change Your Relationship

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A new live conversation every two weeks

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Bring your own situation — it's interactive, and educational lecture

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Every session is recorded and added to your library

The F.E.R.N.S Map: One Method, Five Barriers

Behind every hard conversation are four barriers — Feelings & Fears, Expectations, Reactivity, and Sensitivities — bound together by a single story: the attribution, the meaning we assign to what our partner did. Every one of those barriers points toward the same exit — your Needs, the N at the center of the method. The F.E.R.N.S. Method is a seven-step process for recognizing your own threat-detection system — the quiet, automatic ways the brain hijacks you into self-preservation — and moving through it. The goal isn't to protect yourself from your partner. It's to protect the relationship: to understand and communicate what you actually need, then move it through the steps that bridge back toward connection.

Brian T. Jones, LMHC PMHC

Marriage/Relational Psychotherapist Creator of FERNS Method Owner of BME Therapy Associates, LLC For almost 15 years, Brian T. Jones (LMHC, PMHC) has sat with couples in the hardest conversations of their lives. Out of that work he created the F.E.R.N.S. Method — an integration of relational psychology, philosophy, and neuroscience that turns those conversations into a path toward connection.

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